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oh well another cheep jab at the expense of black women. Black men get tired of getting the bad rap and so they should. The small percentage of the bad seem to outshadow the good. The thing that kind of gets me is this: Is this a way of making the director money of the negative views of black women. Black men have been shot down and used in this way for years. Is this the new topic to take advantage of? Is this director promoting the ever diminishing view of the black woman? Of course black women have the responsiblity to stand up and take responsibilty for thier own negative ways, but don't all women have problems. I mean look at lifetime. A channel dedicated to deballing ALL men and not just black men. Its so easy to say no good black men instead of no good me for picking and staying with the one bad seed. I just wonder how can a film that has a eye catching clip of showing the shameful acts of a few mad black women really promote a positive way of communicating between men and women? Is not this film doing the same thing the "all black men are bad men" stereotype except casting the shadow on black women?

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Thank you all for your positive comments and support!

To the poster of comment #20. No, he was a Haitian BEING Haitian - their was never an attempt for him to be viewed as African - that is an authentic Haitian accent he speaks with. He even said in the film to a girl at a club who mistook him for African, "I am not African, I am from the Caribbean".

And to the poster of comment #21. No one said all black women are bad - it is just a message to the angry ones who do not take responsibility for their actions that stem from their anger. Almost every man I interviewed in the movie said, "Not all women are bad" or, "Some black women, not all".

And, on top of that, the movie showed cheating married black men (not the main character), and another black man beating his girlfriend violently in the face. Their was only one good person (the main character) in the whole movie! Everyone else was foul.

There are both bad black men and bad black women - but all of neither side is bad and anyone who would imply so is stupid - and I am not.

Watch the movie again - this time without the emotional over reaction. Tim

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ANOTHER IDIOT BROTHER OH BROTHER

Republican presidential candidate John McCain�s brother made an apparent joke at a campaign rally this weekend that might not play well in parts of newly competitive Virginia.
Joe McCain, speaking at an event in support of his brother, called two Democratic-leaning areas in Northern Virginia �communist country,� according to a report on The Washington Post�s Web site.
�I�ve lived here for at least 10 years and before that about every third duty I was in either Arlington or Alexandria, up in communist country,� Joe McCain, a Navy veteran, said at an event in Loudoun County, Va. Out of touch just like his brother with America and the world! IDIOT! Virginia has long been a Republican stronghold in presidential elections, but Democrat Barack Obama is running even or ahead of McCain in recent state polls. Obama is being helped by fast-growing communities in the Washington, D.C., suburbs of Northern Virginia, which tend to vote more Democratic than other parts of the state.

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CRIME AND THE LACK OF PUNISHMENT IN THE WHITE COMMUNITY
Almost weekly there another white wife or girlfriend missing sometime pregnant. Or there is a white childs missing or another white teen shooting up there school. It seem every three month or so a white serial killer is on the losse.The white pundits who controls the American media has disrespected American value and responsible journalism! The result of this disrespect is to white Americans and there community. And all american people. White on white crime is under reported and unchecked! White on white crime has stood at 89% for many many years! The white media turns white crime around and sensationalize and glamorize crime in white community!White criminal have gotten rich off the crime they have commited! By writing books and movie deals! Like the HBO Sopranos where white Italian Mobs are glamorize. Growing Up Gotti puts John Gotti (FORMER MOB BOSS & MURDERER) daughter and grandchildren on tv as celebrity. Where are the Blood's family? The lack of family value and moral value is constanly said about non-whites. And I'm not saying that non-whites are without problem. I'm just saying between the justice system( THAT HAS TURN A BLIND EYE TO WHITE CRIMINALS) and the white media. Whites crime is unchecked and under reported! White people inmoral behavoir is joked about. Jerry Springer could not stay on the air if he was black and his show was mostly black! This is a show that should have been off the air.

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Tim,

I'm glad to see you check this board and respond to commenters; I really hope you can respond to this.

How can you call the reaction of commenter #21 "an emotional overreaction"? You watched movies like Waiting to Exhale and were so bothered by them you decided to make a film in response. Can you really begrudge the Black women who get stereotyped by movies like yours our righteous indignation over how we're portrayed? Of course you're not saying *all* Black women are the promiscuous, mean, gold-digging, lazy, ignorant women that you portrayed in your movie, but the same is true of the movies you claim portray Black men so negatively - they are not claiming those stereotypes are true of all Black ment. If I should be comforted by the fact that your movie isn't directed at women like me, why are you not comforted by the fact that the movies you cite as the reason you felt your movie was necessary weren't directed at men like you?

Stereotypes hurt - especially in a community of people who are consistently subjected to negative portrayals of themselves in all forms of media. Clearly you're aware of this fact because it was your frustration with the portrayals of Black men that prompted you to make this film. You have a right to your creative expression, and I'm not saying you shouldn't have made this movie. But you of all people should understand why this movie deeply offends me. And I don't think that's an overreaction.

Maya

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Hi Maya,

Waiting to Exhale did not bother me at all and it was not the inspiration for my film. 3 woman I was in a relationships with were, at separate times of course.

I didn't even see Waiting to Exhale until a year after I finished my film. I named my film, and used the sub-title I did to let people know that men have a side also.

There have been very few films that look at black women's roles in the problem - but many about black men.

Please click this link and you will hear a interview I did and it will tell you my intent.

http://web.mac.com/timacs/iWeb/Tim%20Alexander%27s%20Diary%20Of%20A%20Tired%20Black%20Man%20Podcast/Podcast/83A2A2F1-FD30-4985-8B18-355ABCF7FB05.html#comment_layer

The movie was based on my reality and the reality of all of the men and women I interviewed. It was not done to anger or disrespect black women, it was done in love as a eye opener.

Thanks for your interest in my film.

Tim Alexander,
The Filmmaker.

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Hey Tim!!,
thumbs up to the movie on dvd on this subject, in fact I will order it as soon as possible. This I know will and already got some AWBS angry for addressing and exposing the truth about how black women are today. I can relate to everything that what you're discussing about taking out on the good brother that does not deserve it. Also those who blame black man for their problems should look at themselves for the poor choices they made by hooking up with thug with no job, in an out of jail with huge criminal records, beats and cheats on her, and doggs her out. A woman of course black once told me that if a man dont beat her ass then she doesnt want him which its a crime shame. I have to address something to the real men who is about their bussiness is this with those kind never be nice to the ABWS who doesnt deserve it, but be respectful which I know that they won't appreciate, but with a good black woman they're out their treat that will treat a black man well with respect. Tim keep it up without any fear.

Douglas Butler

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Hey Tim!!,

Thumbs up on the movie about this topic finally a conclusing of the ABWS this movie will address and expose the issues of blackwomen who degrades good blackmen without a cause. In fact I will order thje dvd as soon as possible, and its are turn to exhale blackwomen the vast majority has a serious problem with their peers with their lonely girlfriends, family members to dictacte their choses of dealing with good blackman and they have no man. They're happy in their own misery, at the same time they sociallizes with thugs and pretty boys to manipulate and control. They get irate when they cannot manipulate or control a real strong blackman ,they're some good blackwomen out there, finding one is like finding gold in the copper mind,women who complains that they'rent any good blackmen left are the same ones running them away with their sharp tongue,their harsh aggressiveness, rude behavior, bossiness, and the list goes on and on. Now they talk about and brag about how strong and independent they are, I recgnize some are (the good ones) but those who claim to be strong and independent are not for the fact that they do not have a mind of their own for example telling their friends not to talk to a decent blackman by pulling her away,thts hating on her friend but at the same time will socialize with drug dealers and thugs that cusses them out getting them pregnant and dogging them.Then turn around and take it on the next brother who do not deserve it is wrong. I had once a blackwoman who told me that if a man don't beat here ass then she will not stay with him which is a crime shame.They need to look at themselves and their choses of dealing with the wrong kind of men and chose the right kind of men who is about his bussiness the honast way, I had a few blackwomen addressed to me that they are use to thugs that goes in and out of jail with a huge criminal record , and was use to a yes man (in other words a sucka). I will address only to the real men out there be respectful but niceness will get you ran over to demand your respect fellas sometimes you would have to put them in their places. They are always a reason for everything, with a good blackwoman she is special and will treat a blackman with respect. Im addressing another thing about the drama that blackwomen causes I hate arguements I hate fighting I hate insecure, suspicious,impatience, snobbiness, ungratefulness and the list goes on. And last to Tim keep spreading the light of truth without any fear it's time that us blackmaen speak out about that plague that destroyes black couples in the worst way and hopely give them hope.

Douglas Butler

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I have 6 sisters who were raised by our father and mother to think independently. They don't confuse strengths with force, nor manipulation. We learned to go solo after a breakup, not confusing singleness with a lack of self-worth, and not carry negatives into what comes next. It has been the practice of many talk show hosts and some organizations to identify and open wounds, but not to heal and find solutions. We need to ask "Why?". The answer is that curing our societies cancers would cut the issues at their roots and put so many of them out of business. The good thing, as shown in the movie, is that there are many many couples QUIETLY living in harmony and sharing genuine growth. They see and cherish the difference of approach to relationship. What network is going to cover the positive?

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