
With less than a month to go before the emotional and uplifting film 'Precious' opens, executive producer Tyler Perry decided it was time to open up about his own personal demons. "I'm tired of holding this in," he wrote in a long and revealing letter on his Web site. "I don't know what to do with it anymore, so I've decided to give some of it away."
Perry said watching 'Precious,' which tells the story of a teen who endures molestation and physical abuse, inspired him to recall his own past. "I watched all the things that Precious, a 16-year-old girl in the film, went through. I watched her mother be unusually cruel to her, and I realized at that moment that a large part of my childhood had just played out before my eyes," he wrote.
In the letter, Perry recalled some of the most painful memories he faced as a child, and the beatings that his mother endured at the hands of his father. He also recalled an incident of what appears to be molestation at age 10 by the mother of a childhood friend, and he also mentions being molested by a man at an unspecified age. "I got a call not long ago from a friend. He told me that a man that I knew from church when I was a kid had died and...his family was trying to reach out to me to see if I would pay for his funeral. I quickly said no, but I wish I would have said yes. There is something so powerful to me in burying the man that molested me. I wish I would have dug the grave myself."
He also tells of the time his mother tried to leave his abusive father when he was just a tot. "She loaded me and my two sisters up in an old Cadillac that he had bought for her, and drove to California. When he realized she was gone, he called the police and reported the car stolen, as it was in his name. My mother was arrested, and my two sisters and I were put in the cell with her. He and my uncle drove from Louisiana to California to get us. We spent several days in jail waiting for him. He bailed her out and couldn't wait to get her into the car. He got into the back seat with us and beat her black and blue from California to Louisiana, as me and my sisters watched. Even though I was only two or three, I know that this had to have some effect on me."
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Six Degrees of Tyler Perry
Six Degrees of Tyler Perry
In just three years, Tyler Perry has become the toast of Hollywood. Could you name another director black or white who can boast of having released six feature movie projects within a three year period? Nope. Not only did the New Orleans native write all of the storylines for the films, he starred in four. Combined, five of the films have grossed upwards of $250 million worldwide, some within budgets below $6 million. And with the major money train also comes associating with some of the biggest names in and out of the entertainment business. BlackVoices.com takes an introspective look at how a former homeless man turned chit'lin circuit theater czar has connections to the likes of Michael Jackson, Denzel Washington, Whitney Houston and Will Smith, to name a few. Check out Six Degrees of Tyler Perry.
Tyler Perry
The best-selling playwright turned Hollywood hot-shot (real name: Emmitt R. Perry, Jr.) was born Sept. 14, 1969 in New Orleans, Louisiana.
Ray Nagin
Another New Orleans native, Ray Nagin, Jr. was elected into the office of Mayor of the Crescent City on March 6, 2002.
Labelle
Known as the music capitol of the Gulf Coast, New Orleans was also the setting for 'Lady Marmalade,' a hit song from 1970s glam-soul trio Labelle, comprised of Patti LaBelle, Nona Hendryx and Sara Dash.
Lenny Kravitz
Modern day rock & roll demigod Lenny Kravitz is one of the top-notch talents chosen to produce Labelle's long-awaited reunion album, 'Back to Now,' due out later this year via Verve Records.
Lisa Bonet
'The Cosby Show' and 'A Different World' star Lisa Bonet eloped with Lenny Kravitz in November 1987. Their daughter Zoe Isaballe Kravitz was born the next year. The couple separated in 1991.
Gary Dourdan
'C.S.I.' actor Gary Dourdan played Cree Summer's character's love interest Shazza Zulu on the NBC sitcom 'A Different World,' which was originally developed as a spin-off vehicle for Lisa Bonet. The Philadelphia native appeared on 13 episodes from 1991 to 1992.
Janet Jackson
Gary Dourdan also played the love interest of Janet Jackson in the music video for her chart-topping ballad, 'Again,' in 1993.
Tyler Perry
Janet Jackson starred in the lead role of Tyler Perry's box office smash, 'Why Did I Get Married?' The twice divorced pop star won an NAACP Image Award for her performance.
Ruben Cannon
One of the most respected executives in Hollywood, Ruben Cannon has served as a casting director of film and TV projects dating all the way back to 1977. He co-executive produced Tyler Perry's 'Why Did I Get Married?'
The New Orleans native, who turned 40 last month, was born Emmitt R. Perry Jr. but changed his name to Tyler to rid himself of his father's name. He has never made it a secret that he was abused as a child and ran away from home. He eventually became a successful playwright, producing hit shows that took him to the film world where he continues to succeed.
Despite that success, the past continues to haunt Perry. "My mother was out one night, as she loved to play bingo, and my father came home...mad at the world," he relates in the letter. "He was drunk, as he was most of the time. He got the vacuum cleaner extension cord and trapped me in a room and beat me until the skin was coming off my back. To this day, I don't know what would make a person do something like that to a child. But thank God that in my mind, I left. I didn't feel it anymore, just like in 'Precious.'"
Along with Oprah Winfrey, Perry will help promote 'Precious.' He says he is not making any money from the film (which he neither directed nor wrote), and that both he and Winfrey will give all the proceeds to charity.
"If life begins at 40, then I owe the little boy that I was my life...[the film] hit me so hard, I sat there in tears realizing that somehow, by the grace of God, I made it through. My tears were tears of joy, being thankful that I made it."
The rest of his letter can be read here.


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By: dee on 10/09/2009 11:13AM
I'm sorry to hear that happen to u to because i been there to i will pray for u . thank you for being u . god bless u.
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By: gscott on 10/10/2009 11:39PM
I will always keep in prayers ,Tyler and all the others who have endured this type of mistreatment,for healing is possible ,but not easily acheived.It is a work in progress.
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By: De Ranchero on 10/16/2009 4:05PM
Stuff happens! Yo, ain't nobody on this Earth perfect. We ALL go through stuff. Even I have. However, if you got GOD on your side, what man (mankind) does to you will not affect you in a negative way. It will only make you stronger! Tyler and Oprah, I believe, were chosen by Christ to be vessels to let us all know, no matter what cards we are dealt, we can ALL make it. The next time somebody gets abused, think of the ABUSE we put GOD through when we don't have the capacity to forgive those who trespass against us. It takes a fool to think vengeance in his/her heart (believe me, I used to have a whole LIST of people who did me dirty). However, it takes a real man of faith to big enough to say, "I forgive you, you didn't know who were messin' with." We are all children of the MOST HIGH. Act like it!
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By: barbaradeberry on 10/11/2009 7:52PM
Tyler Perry & Opra are doniating all the proceeds from this movie to charity. So what if he has millions and Opra has billions they are two exceptional people they earned it no one gave it to them have some respect and recognize. Oh let us not forget about our President Barak Obama who is also donating his Nobel Prize money to charity and he did not accept the $100,000.00 money to redecorate the white house instead he used his own.
I was an abused child by my stepday from 5 years old to twelve this nightmare plays over and over again daily and I am now 58 years old. My virginty was stolen, my childhood was stolen & so was my self esteme. No one has to lie about abuse it is most likely in everyones family. Thats what I thought as a child. They just don't talk about it. Tyler you are extordinary, keep on keepin on.
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By: RMT on 10/11/2009 10:29PM
Bless his soul... My heart aches for the pain he had to endure, but overjoyed at the success he has made of his life despite the nightmare of his childhood days. I wish him peace and continued success.
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By: Cynthia Lewis on 10/13/2009 11:26PM
October 13, 2009
Tyler
It’s a wonderful day to be a child of God. Today, I have been commissioned to come and minister to you. My brother, my sister, the Bible declares in Job 22:28 - Thou shalt also decree a thing, and it shall be established unto thee: and the light shall shine upon thy ways. My brother, my sister, I Declare Unto You:
That the peace of God will enter into your mind and destroy all confusion sent by the enemy; (Philippians 4:7)
That the joy of the Lord is your strength; (Nehemiah 8:10)
That you will use wisdom when making decisions; (Proverbs 4:7)
That you will gain understanding of your God-ordained assignment; (Psalm 119:104)
That the plots of the enemy against you are canceled in the name of Jesus Christ; (John 10:10)
That the blessings of God will overtake you; (Deuteronomy 28:1-2)
That you are a blessing to the nation; (Malachi 3:12)
That your children are purpose-filled by the Lord; (Matthew 21:16)
That no weapon that is formed against you will prosper; (Isaiah 54:17)
That the healing hand of God will cancel every sickness or disease and replace it with wholeness; (Isaiah 53:5)
That you are no longer a victim but a victor in Jesus’ name; (I John 4:4)
That He which has begun a good work in you will complete it in you; (Philippians 1:6)
That you can do all things through Christ which strengthens you; (Philippians 4:13)
That your God shall supply all of your needs according to His riches in glory; (Philippians 4:19)
That the lies of man have no power over your life; (Psalm 110:1)
That the generational curses in your life are broken from your life; (Matthew 11:29)
That your finances are pressed down, shaken together and running over with abundance; (Luke 6:38)
That you are blessed to be a blessing; (Hebrews 6:14)
That you are fearfully and wonderfully made by the hand of God; (Psalm 139:14)
That you are free to praise the Lord; (Psalm 150:6)
That you have the authority to bind every demon and ungodly spirit. (Matthew 16:19)
May God Bless you at Your point of need!
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By: Charlotte Miller on 10/22/2009 7:25PM
Mr. Perry's childhood story will help others in their lives. Many suffer from childhood trama his story will help them understand they too, can rise above their horror and become someone they never dreamed they would become. His story will help them
understand God walks beside us in pain and happiness. We are never alone.
I wish you God's strength and love.
Thank you Mr. Perry for giving others hope.
Charlotte Miller/Duncanville, Texas75116
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By: Bill on 10/24/2009 12:19AM
Tyler was great in the Black List #2
www.blacklistproject.com
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By: cj on 10/25/2009 3:09PM
I don't believe that it's a coincedence that Mr. Perry is releasing this information because "There is a time for everything", and this is that time. I have no doubt that "GOD" had been with Mr. Perry all through his life. I have observed his success and witnessed the forgiving person that he has become (he has forgiven his father). I also know that good as well as bad things that happen to us as children tend to spring up time and again; especially when we watch a movie, hear a story about someone else's experience in life that relates to something that we ourselves have experienced. I truly believe that Mr. Perry's letter, the movie and "Precious" will continue to enlighten others (as Mr. Perry's play's and movies have.
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