
With less than a month to go before the emotional and uplifting film 'Precious' opens, executive producer Tyler Perry decided it was time to open up about his own personal demons. "I'm tired of holding this in," he wrote in a long and revealing letter on his Web site. "I don't know what to do with it anymore, so I've decided to give some of it away."
Perry said watching 'Precious,' which tells the story of a teen who endures molestation and physical abuse, inspired him to recall his own past. "I watched all the things that Precious, a 16-year-old girl in the film, went through. I watched her mother be unusually cruel to her, and I realized at that moment that a large part of my childhood had just played out before my eyes," he wrote.
In the letter, Perry recalled some of the most painful memories he faced as a child, and the beatings that his mother endured at the hands of his father. He also recalled an incident of what appears to be molestation at age 10 by the mother of a childhood friend, and he also mentions being molested by a man at an unspecified age. "I got a call not long ago from a friend. He told me that a man that I knew from church when I was a kid had died and...his family was trying to reach out to me to see if I would pay for his funeral. I quickly said no, but I wish I would have said yes. There is something so powerful to me in burying the man that molested me. I wish I would have dug the grave myself."
He also tells of the time his mother tried to leave his abusive father when he was just a tot. "She loaded me and my two sisters up in an old Cadillac that he had bought for her, and drove to California. When he realized she was gone, he called the police and reported the car stolen, as it was in his name. My mother was arrested, and my two sisters and I were put in the cell with her. He and my uncle drove from Louisiana to California to get us. We spent several days in jail waiting for him. He bailed her out and couldn't wait to get her into the car. He got into the back seat with us and beat her black and blue from California to Louisiana, as me and my sisters watched. Even though I was only two or three, I know that this had to have some effect on me."
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Six Degrees of Tyler Perry
Six Degrees of Tyler Perry
In just three years, Tyler Perry has become the toast of Hollywood. Could you name another director black or white who can boast of having released six feature movie projects within a three year period? Nope. Not only did the New Orleans native write all of the storylines for the films, he starred in four. Combined, five of the films have grossed upwards of $250 million worldwide, some within budgets below $6 million. And with the major money train also comes associating with some of the biggest names in and out of the entertainment business. BlackVoices.com takes an introspective look at how a former homeless man turned chit'lin circuit theater czar has connections to the likes of Michael Jackson, Denzel Washington, Whitney Houston and Will Smith, to name a few. Check out Six Degrees of Tyler Perry.
Tyler Perry
The best-selling playwright turned Hollywood hot-shot (real name: Emmitt R. Perry, Jr.) was born Sept. 14, 1969 in New Orleans, Louisiana.
Ray Nagin
Another New Orleans native, Ray Nagin, Jr. was elected into the office of Mayor of the Crescent City on March 6, 2002.
Labelle
Known as the music capitol of the Gulf Coast, New Orleans was also the setting for 'Lady Marmalade,' a hit song from 1970s glam-soul trio Labelle, comprised of Patti LaBelle, Nona Hendryx and Sara Dash.
Lenny Kravitz
Modern day rock & roll demigod Lenny Kravitz is one of the top-notch talents chosen to produce Labelle's long-awaited reunion album, 'Back to Now,' due out later this year via Verve Records.
Lisa Bonet
'The Cosby Show' and 'A Different World' star Lisa Bonet eloped with Lenny Kravitz in November 1987. Their daughter Zoe Isaballe Kravitz was born the next year. The couple separated in 1991.
Gary Dourdan
'C.S.I.' actor Gary Dourdan played Cree Summer's character's love interest Shazza Zulu on the NBC sitcom 'A Different World,' which was originally developed as a spin-off vehicle for Lisa Bonet. The Philadelphia native appeared on 13 episodes from 1991 to 1992.
Janet Jackson
Gary Dourdan also played the love interest of Janet Jackson in the music video for her chart-topping ballad, 'Again,' in 1993.
Tyler Perry
Janet Jackson starred in the lead role of Tyler Perry's box office smash, 'Why Did I Get Married?' The twice divorced pop star won an NAACP Image Award for her performance.
Ruben Cannon
One of the most respected executives in Hollywood, Ruben Cannon has served as a casting director of film and TV projects dating all the way back to 1977. He co-executive produced Tyler Perry's 'Why Did I Get Married?'
The New Orleans native, who turned 40 last month, was born Emmitt R. Perry Jr. but changed his name to Tyler to rid himself of his father's name. He has never made it a secret that he was abused as a child and ran away from home. He eventually became a successful playwright, producing hit shows that took him to the film world where he continues to succeed.
Despite that success, the past continues to haunt Perry. "My mother was out one night, as she loved to play bingo, and my father came home...mad at the world," he relates in the letter. "He was drunk, as he was most of the time. He got the vacuum cleaner extension cord and trapped me in a room and beat me until the skin was coming off my back. To this day, I don't know what would make a person do something like that to a child. But thank God that in my mind, I left. I didn't feel it anymore, just like in 'Precious.'"
Along with Oprah Winfrey, Perry will help promote 'Precious.' He says he is not making any money from the film (which he neither directed nor wrote), and that both he and Winfrey will give all the proceeds to charity.
"If life begins at 40, then I owe the little boy that I was my life...[the film] hit me so hard, I sat there in tears realizing that somehow, by the grace of God, I made it through. My tears were tears of joy, being thankful that I made it."
The rest of his letter can be read here.


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By: votarus4 on 10/06/2009 3:05PM
...nope, still more from me...
So why doesn't he care about getting back at the WOMAN who abused him sexually...just the man. Tyler's homophobia and blatant racism make his work series unbearable to watch. He sets the black movement back years, but calls it "family entertainment"...and you buy it.
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By: MsMHS on 10/06/2009 2:49PM
Why don't you just call a minister, a priest, a rabbi or sit down and discuss with your wife -- in this day and age there's no reason to broadcast it on the Web or hold it in. Help is with a professional, not the Internet!
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By: flash on 10/06/2009 6:41PM
Tyler Perry is NOT married. It isn't one of his movies,the movie gave him the courage to come forward with what happened to him and he wanted to encourage the public to see this movie. It helps others who have been abused in one way or another to face those demons and seek help or talk to someone. People really need to read and stop taking things out of context. The fact that he's a man and willing to share something so awful says a lot about the man him self. Much respect Tyler Perry
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By: Elmira Wicker on 10/06/2009 2:52PM
On one hand I have a lot of respect for Tyler for what he has made of himself, but one the other hand I am fed to the hilt with the treatment that he gives his father. I happen to know his father very well and he is not the stoneage monster that Tyler has characterizes him as being.
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By: JEWEL on 10/06/2009 3:08PM
I REALL DONT THINK U HAVE THE WRIGHT TO TELL SOME HOW TO FEEL ABOUT SOME ONE DID YOU SEE WHAT WENT ON IN HIS HOUSE IF YOU DID THEN SHAME ON YOU IF YOU DIDNT DONT TALK ABOUT WHAT YOU DONT KNOW AND IF YOUR SAYING ITS ALL A LIE THEN SAY THAT
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By: Cindy on 10/06/2009 3:18PM
Elmira, as one who grew up in an abusive environment NO ONE outside of the immediate family knew the scope of my father's anger. He presented himself totally different to the "world". Everyone thought my dad was a good man, who would give you the shirt off his back. What they didn't see is how he beat my mother, shot at her, beat my sister like a man, etc. Maybe you did know Tyler's father, but you, obviously, didn't know what he was like behind closed doors. Just remember, we all act differently in the public eye...and sometimes our true colors present themselves behind closed doors.
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By: bakermf465 on 10/06/2009 3:19PM
I feel sorry for you if you don't know that you don't always know people. Many people have a dark side. It's like the abuse I suffered at my father's hands (sexual and physical). People don't want to believe that my father abused me. Why would I lie? He's a drug dealer and mean as hell. It's something people don't like to believe. But, I lived in fear many years of my childhood. For many years of my life I have dealt with various issues resulting from the abuse without the help of my mother because she doesn't believe it occurred. Yet, they saw that I was a depressed person for most of my 20s. Now that I'm older, it doesn't hurt as much. But, don't say you know the man because you really don't. I don't care if you sleep with him every night.
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By: Andre on 10/06/2009 6:24PM
Elmira Wicker, YOU are a total moron! Who gives a bleep about your ignorant attempt at standing up to Mr. Perry's father! No matter HOW well you may THINK you know that man, you have NO IDEA what goes on behind closed doors!! You pick up the paper everyday & read about some great glowing person seen by everyone, but yet are stunned to find he had been keeping some child chained in a 5x7 closet for 10 years.
Of course, maybe you are standing up for Mr. Perry's daddy because you are screwing the mean old bugger!
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By: Eddie NYCity on 10/06/2009 2:52PM
Dear Tyler,
Kudos to you and your entire staff, your movies are moving, hard hitting, direct to the heart and the soul, your the best producer, actor, human alive, kudos to you. Now please send me Adam Rodriguez autograph please send to
Eddie NYC
9-3rd St
Rosedale, NY 11422
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By: votarus4 on 10/07/2009 11:24AM
But you're not just saying that to get an autograph, right?
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